As a Celebrant I understand that it is very important that the Celebrant who creates your ceremony, is one that you can relate to, have a rapport with. Ceremonies are extremely personal and so I wish to share with you some of the things that are important to me and my work. To assist you in your choice of Celebrant.
But where do I begin as life itself is my passion; every breath, every waking moment, every dawn is the chance to reinvent yourself, transform your life, start afresh.
I have made some major changes to our lives since my husband Paul suffered a life changing brain haemorrhage in 2016. Traumatic events such as this inevitably cause a diversion in the life journey, we had a choice sink or swim. We chose to swim with all our strength and create a new, different life. Paul is recovering well, with a life limiting disability he has found new meaning and is reclaiming his artistic skill, now drawing with his only working hand..his left after 60 years of being right handed. The simple joy of being able to write his name is profound. I have decided that my 34 year career in nursing, and recently a stressful senior management nursing position, was not how I wanted to continue living. Life has a different intensity on surviving tragedy, little things mean so much more. I have downsized our lives to find harmony and balance, we now live in the gentle countryside of the Easby Valley, Richmond, North Yorkshire. My caring work continues with as much empathy, but in a new invigorated direction. I create and provide wonderful meaningful ceremonies, throughout the UK, as an independent specialist Celebrant.
Love seems a good place to start. I love life. I love having the opportunity to fully experience the wonders of the world in its many forms: the fickleness of fellow humans, the enchanting ways of the animals; the diverse landscapes of rivers, ancient woodlands, majestic trees, mountains ,valleys; sheep grazing, spring green grass, ripened wheat in the fields, lambs frolicking in the meadows, the feel of the breeze against my skin, the touch of Mother Earth beneath my bare feet, the caress of rain against my cheek, the crunch of newly arrived crisp white snow… I love hugs, kisses, kindness, loyalty, authenticity, reliability, excellent customer service, quality gifts made with love and attention to detail, and mindfulness.
To live in the present moment, to live in the ‘NOW’. When we constantly return to past endeavours good or bad, we erase the NOW. To be constantly worrying or planning for a future which is yet to be, denies the now, and NOW is all we ever actually have. I believe in making each and every NOW moment count.
When the Dali Lama was asked what surprised him most about humanity, he answered:
“Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present or the future. He lives as if he is never going to die, then dies never having really lived”.
Millie and Mindfullness
I achieve a totally mindful state when I drive my beloved vintage car around the Countryside. Her name is Millie, a 1967 Morris Minor in deep Burgundy with chrome coachwork. Millie is all original and she just will not be rushed, as the sticker on her back window states “I am not fast, not furious, just FUN” exactly how I feel about life. Driving around taking my time, savouring the amazing beauty of nature, I achieve quality time for myself. I allow extra time for the journeys when attending appointments, something very simple that makes life more enjoyable, but which sadly many are unable or unprepared to do in the 21st Century. Mindfulness in Millie provides me with space in my life, space to savour and appreciate all I have and especially the landscape that surrounds me. I always have a notebook and a camera nearby to jot down my next poem or words of meaning, that pop into my head as I see an image, and an inspirational “AH YES” moment appears.
Another passion is the process of alchemy through the creative use of words, storytelling, drama and the therapeutic playing of the Celtic Harp.
I realised from a very early age that I am a free spirit. I love the space and the freedom to be creative, I cannot be contained, structured, or organised. Those who have tried to do so have seen me wilt and lose my direction. I quite simply have to CREATE! It defines who I am and brings me great joy and happiness. When planning a ceremony I work with you, weaving your wishes, life experience, values into the significance of the occasion, I write a personal ceremony that reflects all that you want it to, with an energy and beauty often felt but not always seen. I put this love and joyous energy into every ceremony, this energy is then passed on to my customers who are gifted with life long happy memories of THEIR occasion.
“A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if he is to be ultimately at peace with himself.
What a man can be he must be”
“There is no time for cut-and-dried monotony. There is time for work: And time for LOVE. That leaves no time”
Enchanted Forests, Sacred Groves
My Artist husband Paul and I both live with a deep reverence for the beauty of nature; its tranquillity and serenity. Living a life of grace, in tune with the natural cycles and the turning wheel of the year through the seasons and Celtic festivals.We live close to nature, at one with the land, seasons, and stars; blessed with an intuitive & instinctual wisdom, in a World gone mad in its rush towards progress
“The Love of Land, Sea & Sky. The Love of Earth our Home”
The following endorsement from a fellow artist basically sums up my ethos:
“I have enjoyed working with such a positive person and feel privileged to know you. You are such a determined and kind Woman and I admire the way you GRAB life and live it to the full”